Transferred by February 13, 2010 12:00 pm
The problem with being a nice girl is that when you meet a nice boy, you don't know how to tell him you're not really interested. Sure. He's nice. He's funny. He's decently good looking. Has a good job. He's . . . well, he's just a nice guy.
But he's what my friends and I call "vanilla." While I have yet to stumble upon a flaw, there's not really anything about him that really pops out and makes me think, "Wow, I wanna date this dude."
So at the end of our first date, when he said "Wanna do this again sometime?" I said, "Yea, definitely." Because, you know, maybe he was just nervous. Maybe it was his first date in a while or something. Maybe he just got dumped. A second date could yield a much more interesting guy. I'm not saying I was expecting him to all of a sudden turn out to be chocolate on the second date, but you know, maybe vanilla with sprinkles. That would be nice.
So the second date came and went, and again, he was a nice guy. He seems like the kind of guy I could meet up with every once in a while, and grab a drink with a group of friends and have a fun time. But do I wanna date Mr. Vanilla? No, not really. And Mr. Vanilla seems like the kind of guy who, after a third date, would start using the "girlfriend" word. So it's pretty much imperative that I somehow let him down easily before it comes to the third date.
My question to all of you Silly Statters is: How do I tell him this without hurting his feelings or coming off as rude?