The dating game: those three little words that we love to hate. A game of suspense, of coy deception, of love, of hours waiting by your cell phone, of extreme pleasure, of ducking into stores to hide your face, of good versus evil, of crying yourself to sleep, of relief, of happiness and I’m sure you can think of many more. But how do we, the guys and girls who are the pawns in this masterful playing field of emotion, win?
What does winning mean? Marriage and happiness? A trophy husband/wife? What is it that is getting us to play this game? Whatever winning means, we all want to win; hence the endless theories of the dating game. There’s the three day call time, the girl should not initiate the calls, the not calling because she’ll know I like her, etc. There have been countless studies on the psychological mind games that go into the dating phenomenon, including one that says that the x factor that keeps couples together for the first two years of their relationship is this: the fear that the other one will leave!
So from a guys v. girls stand point, who’s winning? The ladies or the gents? First I’ll talk about the guys. Here is how the guys win: they wait. Their big muscles, their sexy pillow talk, and nonchalant attitudes make us ladies agonize near our cell phones until the point of mere collapse until we get that call. But you guys know this about girls, so this is how you win! Girls, how do we win? I guess we can take lessons from the great femme fatale of our time: Angelina Jolie. From what I can tell, she usually wins, and she DEFinitely won when she stole Brad Pitt away from Jen Aniston. Be a huge bitch. No, I joke. Though you KNOW I’m no expert, I think the female strategy is very similar to the guys’ strategy. You act like you don’t like them. You dress us sexy with your girlfriends and pretend you don’t give a dime about guys. This is not your style, girls? Too bad, you don’t win!
So how do we even the score? At what point in the relationship does the game clock run down to zero? Shouldn’t a successful relationship mean we both win, or at least tie? Where are the refs to go back and review the ambiguous plays?
Compromise could be the answer… It could be time, the everlasting healer of all things. It could be that both parties’ vulnerability reaches the point of no return to, dare I say it, love? Nonetheless, the dating game will always prevail over us rookies.